TIP:Never conclude a meeting without followup notes:
Note, many meetings are not formal with minutes, or a manager attending.
If your responsible about some point of work, its hard to not
show passion about it, the gaslighter will use that against you.
Though humbly you might have something wrong too.
After the meeting always write the set of points raised in the meeting,
and conclusions and alternative points, and or reasons for/against.
Apart from your OWN points, do NOT name whoever other points are
apportioned from. (whoever is reading will know what points they own)
stay factual.
Email the notes to all attendees, and the department manager.
If you did make some mistake, whoever pointed it out is forced to
reply to you in writing. So deal with it congenially, this is team work.
The thing about gaslighters, is that they are just about never as good
technically as you, or other colleagues. But they will out talk you,
and beat you on the podium, and strangely even colleagues who are non-committal
about some point will weirdly be against you too, yes they are being manipulated
without even knowing it. I mean f#%#$@ they can be really good at it,
you will be bamboozled as to how that can be....It amazing how we humans
can be misdirected in remembering something differently to how it actually
happened.....some people are good at using that.
anyway, if you follow the procedure above you will very quickly find
out if is worth standing your ground/job or start looking for another
job pronto.
A genuine gaslighter will also feel cornered and you will be enemy #1.
Purely verbal meetings are a waste of time, but surprisingly are easily sucked
into to. So you need some self discipline to document them.