@asmi
What was the problem with Molex? Were the footprints off, did the plastic melt, or something else. Molex uses a variety of different plastics. If you can recall one that failed and any other that didn't, I'd like to look into it.
The footprints were/are OK. The plastic they use seems to be especially susceptible to IR reflow, so it melted
As you can see, other connectors are just fine. So now I try to avoid using Molex parts if I can, and if I must, I solder them manually after reflow. It really is puzzling when even cheap-ass Chinese parts from Aliexpress survive IR reflow with no problems, but a well-known brand ones can not
If you want to know specific part numbers of these parts pls let me know - I can try to dig them out as I should still have some leftovers.
Now I prefer using Samtec connectors, their plastic is not affected by IR at all, and they have the best online services - they don't force you to fill out a form with millions of fields if you want to get some samples for fit-checks, you can order in-stock parts directly with no MOQ nonsense, they have 3D step models for most of their parts publicly accessible. But unfortunately they don't make some types of connectors I use, so I have to use others every so often.