Hi,
For reference to others: The PIC data sheets recommends a value of between 27pf and 22pf.
I'd go with the 18pF as specified by Vishay - this is how I've loaded crystals on PICs in the past and not had problems. Use the circuit as per PIC data sheet, that is two Cap's but no resistor, I've never needed it.
Would always check your osc on a scope and enable osc start up timer in the PIC (delays reset line while it becomes stable).
Also connect nice and close to chip with a good ground, not just a bit of wire or thin track, something solid.