Can I select a 8pF crystal and use it without external load caps assuming ~3pF of stray capacitance?
From the datasheet page 33
it says
Crystals specifying load capacitance (CL) higher than 6 pF, require external capacitors applied as described in
Figure 9-2 on page 29.
So I would say no to 8pF
My calcs, correct me if I am wrong.
C = Ci + Ce = 2 * CL – Cs
therefore Cexternal = 2 * Cload - Cstray - Cinternal
assuming 5.5pF xtal load cap. (just because this is where Xtal2 hits zero.)
Ce(Xtal1) = 2 * 5.5pf - 3pF - 18pF which is going to be less than zero so it is zero.
Ce(Xtal2) = 2 * 5.5pf - 3pF - 8pF which equals zero.
all you got to do is find a 5.5pF xtal and make sure your stray cap on Xtal2 is >= 3pf.
If you are going into a large production run I would be very careful here. If not try it and see.