If you dislike details to be hidden from you, then perhaps you won't like Arduino. But Arduino makes your life very easy. It is basically an AVR Atmega328 microcontroller, with a bootloader (which allows communication with it it directly from serial port), and a bunch of libraries. So already, a lot of things that you may like to do are hidden from you.
As for the price, you can get an ATmega328 without bootloader for about $3, and with bootloader for $5. You can use a cheap programmer to burn bootloader on to the chip, or you can use an Arduino Uno or an older version to do that. Do a little search on the internet, and you'll find out how to do that. In fact, the official site also gives you that info. Once you've burnt the bootloader on to the chip, you can use a simple, low cost USB-to-TTL serial converter (FTDI is expensive, consider CP2102 based converter available from ebay for less than $3). You can run the AVR chip without an external resonator/crystal for up to 1MHz, but these are cheap, so it won't drive the cost up significantly.
I really like Arduino, but if you are considering expanding your horizons, consider using MSP430, or an ARM core based microcontroller like Stellaris from TI or ST Microelectronics STM32 option. ST has STM32 Discovery kits available from mouser for as low as $8. Another option is using ST's 8-bit micro option. Their STM8S-Discovery kit is available from Mouser for less than $10, and once you have programmed it, you can break off the ST-LINK (programmer section), and use the microcontroller section in your projects. It even has a prototyping area. Have a look at it.
I don't quite understand why you don't like Arduino Nano. Take the connectors off (in fact, on ebay, you can find a lot of sellers selling it without the connectors or still unsoldered), and you shave off at least 2 grams. It is small in size, and incredibly light, because it uses SMD components. The solution is going to be lighter than if you were to make it from through hole components. I use it in my RC planes all the time. There are nano options available without the FTDI USB-to-serial chip and the USB connector (haven't used it myself, since the weight differential is minimal), which is going to be even lighter, and give you an opportunity to make and play with serial comm., since you'll have to make your own converter.
-pk