Silicon, mostly from the same suppliers. Wafers made to pretty much the same exacting quality standards and tested multiple times. Assembled into packages by a small number of specialist companies, and to pretty much similar high reliability specs.
Yes, pretty much any big manufacturer will supply a good product, and parts that have been in production for a few years will have a good record for failure rates and reliability.
I would suggest that physically larger parts are more reliable from just having more epoxy keeping moisture out, so the older PIC devices, which also are cheaper, are more likely to be reliable. As you say, you do not need super fast, all bells, just reliable, low cost and usable. If you have space and pins build in simple easy to use test routines, and document them. Works for both production and servicing, very important to think of the end user and the service tech who will either thank you or curse you for that.