yep, no luck.
avrdude cannot see the device on the usb port. I pull an old nano from a project that I have, loaded the Arduino isp schetch and I was able to talk to it on arvdudess, but the nano creates a com port for the communication.
I have to return the nano back to the project, but maybe the solution is to buy another nano. completely frustrated.
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I too have the NANO solution. I found it easiest - since I use the Arduino tool set, I don't have the trouble of making something else work.
Since I use it a lot, I have my NANO sitting on a proto-board with headers for ISP programming - 8-pin header for the SOIC clip and a 6 pin ISP Header, plus some dip switches so I can connect/disconnect any ISP lines without having to remove the SOIC clip or 6-pin ISP cable.
When I burn a regular ATMEGA328, I can use an Arduino UNO as the carrier for the 328 and use the 6-pin ISP header to connect my proto board to the UNO. Alternatively, I can also use a breadboard to host the 328.
When I burn the ATTINY85 or 13, I can use the SOIC clip. My proto-board also has an additional 8pin header breaking out the target MCU's 8 pin. I can put an LED or whatever right on the 8-pin breakout and that will connect to the target AtTiny's 8 pins for a quick test.
The great part about using the NANO, I have a dip switch on the proto-board as boot-select. The NANO uses a modified version of the ISP program on the Arduino IDE - basically the Arduino's ISP program with something extra. Depending on the boot-select DIP switch setting, it will either run the ISP portion of the code, or run an RS232 bridge that connects NANO's soft-serial to the NANO's USB serial bi-directionally. The target MCU can read or write to it's RS232 which connects to the NANO's soft-serial. The NANO in turn passes the soft serial to/from the NANO's own hard serial (USB) which connects to the PC. Using the RS232 bridge, I can have my AtTiny85 serial.write or serial.read to/from the PC via the NANO.