Don't have direct experience doing the exact same thing, but from what I know:
Protection features on an ideal diode chip definitely won't be able to eliminate all arcing during de-mating (esp. since the current sense etc is usually filtered pretty heavily), but it could limit it to a shorter time (us instead of 10s or 100s of ms, maybe). If I were you, I'd build a simple mockup and do some measurements to get a feel for the scale. I don't think there's any way you can remove arcing completely with active control.
I can't think of any situation where a snubber on the LOAD side would help, as with mechanical contacts opening, that necessarily has to be across the contacts to absorb the inductance's stored current that would otherwise cause a "flyback" voltage spike and arcing. So to use a snubber effectively, you'd either have to have pins that are guaranteed to disconnect later (back to the mechanical issue), or put a snubber inside the SOURCE side connector.
(For what it's worth, coax isn't "inductance free", just lower-inductance than two side by side wires, and harder to terminate/get heat out/get large cross section areas. You can do some inductance-per-meter lookups/simulations/measurements with different candidate cable geometries, like coax vs twisted pair, to see which one does best while meeting the 15A requirement)