Take a look at panel power meters on ebay/aliexpress. Could dramatically simplify the measurement side of things - I found one that displays real/reactive power, power factor, voltage and current (switching mode via a button on the front) and have built it into a couple of different variacs. The trick with these (other than finding the right one - there are a few options available) is to open them up to identify the input to the capacitive dropper power supply (it only runs down to some tens of volts, not zero), lift the connection and feed the PSU bit full mains voltage. The measurement side (connected to variac output) will still run down to 0V so you bypass the typical 40-80V minimum AC voltage limitation and get a much more useful meter.
Can still use a simple CT for things like OC and SC protection, with the bonus that the MCU can be easily isolated if you're not doing voltage monitoring etc.
As for soft-start a MCU will make it easy (just need a timer, plus some appropriate NTCs and a bypass relay), though there are also methods that don't need one (I was lucky enough to find a small 12V plugpack that had an appropriate soft start delay when mains was applied, and drove a bypass relay direct from it).