OK, so I've been able to address a ballast (it has the short address 0), and it accepts direct and indirect commands for power leveles, and I can see it's working on the LEDs. But when I send a command, which should be answered, I got nothing back. In my growing paranoia, I checked the circuit yet again, it seems to work fine, if i short the DALI bus wires (no ballast connected of course), the input pin on my arduino also goes low, and if I connect an Amp meter to the bus (basically shorting it) I measure around 220-230 mAmps, which seems to be in range of what the standard uses (250mAmps max).