Is there a way to query the car's existing energy state (how full the 'tank' is) ?.
Also, do most EVSE & most cars use the digital protocol? I guess it's "analog alone" or "analog & digital" (but never just digital), analog being the fall-back.
Nope.
AC. All EV's with the exception possibly of Tesla, are solely 'analog' as far as I'm aware. So no SOC from the vehicle. As Mike said, you could detect the taper-off, but this will vary depending on how the vehicle is setup, temperature, initial SOC, etc...
There is a PLC (power line comms) protocol for V2G though, but largely irrelvant as no car has production V2G as far as I'm aware.
If you want to tap into OLEV grants then their are a whole heap of other things you should do - OLEV distorts the market..