I've seen hatching as well, but I think it's mainly for a copper density thing. You'll also see unconnected diamonds or other shapes strewn about (thieving), for the same reason.
Obviously, such an approach would be murder to a multilayer board with high speed signals on it.
I've never worried about soldering. The preheat and wave process should always be sufficient to heat the entire board to soldering temperature. The added mass of a little copper has very little effect, and the wave being a huge friggin' wave, there's little heatsinking action to worry about, unlike with hand soldering.
Selective solder may have some issues, but I expect it's also good enough. Probably controllable/customizable enough to deal with special cases, too?
If nothing else, you can ask a real assembler what they think -- it's their job to stick things on there! Of course, it's your part to see they can do it easily, otherwise you'll bear the added costs.
Tim