Neither is great, because ENIG is thin, wearing through very quickly; while, tin or solder suffers from easy abrasion, and fretting corrosion against the gold-plated connector. (That is, tin and gold aren't metallurgically compatible, forming a brittle interface layer that flakes off easily under motion.)
ENIG is probably better in general, since neither will be reliable in the long term / over many insertion cycles so at least ENIG gives you better connection at the start. But over the long term, yeah, neither is great, maintenance will be required (contact cleaning, give it a whack if it starts going flakey..).
Tim