Another interesting thing was that while getting the boards manufactured overseas (they worked) we were told by the PCB makers that there's _another_ even more strictly controlled level of secret Intel docs, that only the biggest, approved makers of Intel motherboards ever get to see.
There are other associated stories. Such as what happened to the availability of JTAG CPU emulator/debuggers for Intel processors, and the true purpose of SMM. But thats for another day.
What you're describing is what they call "red cover" access -- what you've shown here is "yellow cover". It's not really any sort of conspiracy or anything like that. As you noted, their primary goal is to sell chips, and as such, they have limited resources for doing things like design review etc. As I'm sure you're aware, doing an actual, involved design review takes considerable amounts of time and resource. Thus, they can't offer it to everyone. Clearly, they're not going to spend time for hobbyist projects, and in many cases, not for stuff that companies are running less than several thousand pieces of, because there's just not enough margin in it for them to have it make business sense.
So it follows that they don't give out sensitive documentation readily to anyone who asks for it, because there's no reason for them to take on that level of exposure for things that aren't going to go anywhere.
Also, they have to consider who they're giving it to and what their level of recourse is should it happen to leak. Basically, when you're given red cover access, you agree that should the documentation happen to leak, you are causing them an exceptional level of damage, and that they're entitled to come after you. Of course if you're a smaller company, in most cases, that doesn't add up to much.
Anyhow, that's basically the deal with this stuff.
FWIW, you can still get Intel JTAG debuggers from Wind River and American Arium.