So here are my bits.
- I used 1mm lead solder (Kester) and pretinned everything.
- Iron temp was 310deg and the tip was a 3mm chisel.
- I soldered on top of a piece of MDF (medium density fiberboard) and used paste flux (the solder was rosin core).
- The common wire was a single strand of 16 gauge wire pretinned made taught and screwed to the board.
- I marked the back side of the leds with a marker (red and yellow) to indicate the colour in case thy slipped.
- I used a scalpel blade to place and hold each led while soldering, make sure you have metal to metal contact as flux or paste may prevent it from taking. You need to hold it by the substrate not the lens.
- My eyes are poor so I did use a microscope.
- The actual soldering time (per connection) was well under a second. The action was wipe tip, retin tip, wipe tip, touch to connection, done.
- The image looks as if everything is melted (lens) but that is just the flux and it will clean up fine.
- After the first led was in place the rosin from the solder kept the other one there.
- Use as little solder as possible and the fastest soldering time, if you don't the leds will blob together.
- I did not use glue or tape mainly because everything is so close together it would just get ugly. If you do use something try the sticky stuff off of a post it note.
For your application you could turn the wire 90 deg after the common wire is soldered. That will lessen the profile, if you do that place the common wire in a large metal clip (aluminum would be best) and make sure the actual solder touches the aluminum. This will act as a heat sink an prevent the joint from melting.
How are you going to do the crossing lights? I know of a trick with a 4011 that would work perfectly.