nope just a push of a single switch, and two switches who may need to be pushed 1-3 seconds long.
Found many "crosspoint switches" parts at Mitel, Hynix, Renesas, Analog device, etc ... literally tons of fake from china
Found arduino and avr code snippets, will try to implement a solution with an arduino
I did not knew the "crosspoint switches" terms, thats why i have posted here

Gonna try to play with Mitel mt8808 and mt8816 they cost around 10-12$ each, an AD75019 is 40-50$ a piece loll
thks for the 4051 tips it may prove useful too