Thanks for such a thorough response!
* You say the edge rates are very fast. It may be that they don't need to be anywhere near that fast.
Correct, I have inserted series resistors (25 ohm) at the source for this purpose, so perhaps that will be sufficient. From my probing the corners look reasonably round.
If the lines stay tightly coupled to their reference plane and have consistent impedance (74R or whatever) over their length then the microstrip lines themselves shouldn't
radiate much or create much EMI / SI problems as long as the lines are terminated at the source or destination if they're appreciably long compared to the edge times.
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To prevent EMI from aggressor traces to other traces, avoid running closely parallel potential victim traces to noisy toggling lines.
Yes, these are running along the top and bottom sides, with unbroken ground areas directly under them. Vias have ground vias next to them too. I've also kept any sensitive analog traces well away from this. The parallel traces are all clock, I2S, I2C. I think I have followed good layout practice, it was really the inclusion of these "long" traces that (usually) don't go anywhere but an empty connector that I'm concerned about.
For interconnect don't rely on just a small number of "ground" and "VCC" pins if you have several fast clocked signals. In a cable / connector run a "ground" and "power" signal approximately next to each single ended fast toggling signal so that the return current for the signal will be approximately adjacent to the signal line in path and the loop area of the signal and its return conductor is minimized.
Yes, I've included GND on every other pin of the FFC connector for this reason.
Mind your return paths and don't route fast AC signals over discontinuities / holes / splits in the relevant return path, so just as you have a continuous signal track, right
over / under it have a continuous return reference plane for non-differentially routed/encoded signals.
Howard Johnson's book "high-speed digital design" would be useful to learn about EMC / SI, and Ott's "electromagnetic compatibility engineering" for instance.
And "right the first time":
https://www.thehighspeeddesignbook.com/
I've done all of this! And I've read all of those sources, and they're excellent. I'm also watching everything I can find from Bogatin and Hartley. I think I've got it all correct, it's just the matter of leaving these "long" energized traces that are unterminated that I was worried about. Perhaps that worry is not well justified as long as the rest of the layout is done properly.
I just didn't want these things to become antennas.