As for what you can do with an SS pin -- depends on the function. There are many ways it's used. Also, enable or UVLO and similar pins.
SS is usually a capacitor externally, to a current source and switch internally. The capacitor is discharged in reset (may include output fault conditions), and the current source charges the capacitor otherwise. As the voltage rises, either the output voltage or an internal parameter like peak current or PWM%, is limited to the value on the capacitor.
Example, TL494's SS pin sets PWM%. It's only coincidence that it "soft starts" the load at all -- a shorted load, or an overly large load capacitance, defeats it easily!
The ones which describe supply sequencing, will have V(SS) in terms of V(FB), and SS can be used as a second setpoint or limit input. Particularly handy if you want to add your own custom current limit, say. Assuming you don't need to worry about other features attached to the pin like fault logic or anything.
Tim