@Rerouter - thanks for the Mill-Max link. They look interesting but for my application may be a bit fiddly.
I've saved them away for another day.
@ovnr (& ajb) - ahhh! That's the solution. Using bottom entry connectors I can do what I want. Thanks very much for the idea. I've found some suitable connectors and are going with it.
@Neilm - the Molex Mezzanine look good, a bit pricy for my application but book marked for the future.