1) Polarity is important. To understand this properly, look up how the cavity magnetron works.
I do not mean reversing grounding with this HV positive magnetron DC voltage connector

While filnament heating is about 3VAC it does not change too much 4.6KVDC on one of those connector pins, so I guess it does not matter how those 2 magnetron positive pins are plugged-simply do not remember in which position it was connected, and while do not planned use this microwave oven again, disconnected it and forgot for a few months, happy with quite solid transformer which can be reused
if one of SECONDARY HV wire disconnected from its case-else one can have 2.3kV on transformer case

I've disconnected it from transformer case and soldered another connector, so now I've 2.3kV transformer secondary isolated from its core, so one have to be carefull if wants to reuse this transformer if not removeing completly its HV secondary

This is one of found schematics of microwave oven circuit from web- two pins positive HV voltage connector marked on the bottom with circle red.

There is no +/- marks on this magnetron connector-DC ground is on magnetron case and is connected with grounded HV transformer secondary and a few wires in the middle for filnament heating in oryginal design.
Some newer microwaves replace the large transformer with an inverter and rectifier, thus forming a switched mode power supply and the power can be more efficiently regulated by either reducing the current or higher frequency PWM.
Maybe replacement of the transformer not needed in DIY microwave oven, but by adding H bridge after rectified AC mains change those pulses of corse remember about possible transformer primary designed for 50Hz/60Hz so maybe core saturation issues when trying to drive it in strange ways without AC full cycles

Just finishing other pulse spot welder project where also transformer is used and similar challenges, so it looks like oryginal microwave oven control electronics can be replaced by similar circuit to be able maybe better drive magnetron, but with completly closed waveguides (no windows like in oryginal microwave).
Idea is to put something to heat-for example etched PCB in temperature resistive glass and fine tune magnetron to deliver amount of power needed to heat up etched PCB copper to required temperatures 40*C-50*C.
It could be used to heat other things too if we could quite acurate control magnetron output power in clossed (no RF emissions ) waveguided microwave oven. Additionaly thermaly insulated environment, so calculate amount of power deliver and feed back gained temperature for fine control.