Thank you Circlotron, Duak and OM222O

Sorry for replying only now but took some time off.
Replies below:
Circlotron:
LOL, I started my electronics journey making ignitions, but that by now I need quite a bit of refreshing. Good that you are passionate about them, maybe we can have separate conversations about those when I start playing with them!!

OM222O:
Yes, it looks like I will have to do either of those, smaller caps and/or lower frequencies. I am putting together a spreadsheet to try to balance all the variables. I will share it here when done.
Now to the simplification: why not use a bridge rectifier to get a high voltage DC input from mains, which is then smoothed by your high value capacitors, connected directly to an H bridge that then carries out the pulsing? This way a lot of the current comes directly from the mains, and the caps only compensate for when voltage is below peak. This eliminates a lot of the complexity (zero crossing detection, opto triacs, normal triacs, high inrush currents, pulse grade caps, etc etc).
That's a good idea but:
1) it would half the voltage available...?
2) how can I make sure that when discharging I always get the same voltage level fed into the bridge?
Is there specific reansons for which you need to isolate the caps before discharging them? They'll be at mains potential with a nasty shock regardless so isolation doesn't really add much safety.
3) what do you mean by "isolate the caps before discharging them"? Do you mean the 2 diodes or the "charging" mosfet?
4) If you are referring to the "charging" mosfet than to avoid shorting the mains. Is that wrong in some way?
DUAK:
Are the caps rated for this type of service? Ie., pulse discharge or photoflash?
5) I could not find any pulse-rated caps that size. Only ones I could find are electrolytic and those I found do not say anything about pulse rating. Are there any electrolytic rated for pulsing applications?
Will you be isolating the mains from this circuit with a transformer of some sort? If not, you may end up with some surprising voltages here and there.
6) I assume you mean a 1:1 isolation transformer?
7) I wasn't planning to. Would Why would that cause "surprising voltages here and there" and how would the transformer help?
Many thanks again to you all!
