well yes, but just having smaller pitch is not what im after. I need surface mount with compareably small print but most importannt is build height, 5mm is to much, 3mm would be ok, 2mm ideal. The connector should not purtrude above the other surface mount components as this will ruin the formfactor of a 100% surface mount board. Tag connect looks pretty much ideal, is there something with less pitch though? and smaller positioning pins? In case i can arrange it on a board, maybe i could just print a jig that will use a board edge for allignment. Thats not the exact thing im after, but at least close.
Im still looking for some connector that will stay connected with no external force, maybe even snap in. It will be interesting for other problems as well where pogos will be not permanent enough or to bulky, like board stacking connectors for example.