The current rating of the MOSFET should not be an issue, you can size the resistor string in series with it to limit the current and the current is only seen momentarily.
You can also use the approach of just a resistor string and a low voltage zener diode (~20V or whatever these chips need) to directly derive the supply voltage for startup. It will just always consume power, which may or may not be an issue depending on your application.
You determine the maximum resistor value based on the expected leakage of the controller IC / anything else before startup, minimum size would probably be based on how much power you are willing to dissipate. Based on the resistor value and the capacitance for the controller you can determine what your startup time is. Do you have a fast startup requirement or something? Doing some back of the envelope math it looks like your startup time would be on the order of a second with reasonable component values for just a resistor string + zenier diode.