Having the primary on the outside is not really needed. It may help to have the larger bending radius for the thicker wire though and less of the thinner wire. The difference which winding is inside is not that important. I would even prefer the primary inside, as winding normally drives the magnetization of the core. Having the primary (or secondary split increase the couling). HIgher parasitic capacitance should not be a problem here.
How many turns are needed really depends on the core size, source impedance and resistance for the wires (including the part between mic and transformer). The larger the transformer the fewer turns are needed. 30 Ohms primary look like a lot as it would likely be way more resistance than the source. A ratio of some 1:30 seem resonable, though maybe a bit on the high side as the impedance transforms like the ration squared. The point is to keep the magnetization well away from saturation and the inductance well higher than the nominal signal impedance.
Wether one needs to center tap depends on the way the input circuit is made. Some get away without and some need it. The symmetry should no be that imortant - it again depends on the counter part side.
well the core size is tiny, source impedance idk, it's like a .02mm strip of aluminum foil, like 5mm wide, I'm thinking of using .1mm (36AWG) wire for the secondary, and whatever I can fit on the primary.
I already tried winding with .18mm (33AWG) and I couldn't even fit 1000 turns of that on the bobbin, let alone having space for the primary.
(yes I should probably find a bigger core and bobbin, but I think for a first attempt it would be fine)
well I'll just hope it doesn't have problems with early saturation, or maybe that will make it sound that much better who knows
all the mic preamps I've seen don't have a center tapped input transformer, they just connect the ground pin of the balanced input to ground, and the 2 balanced signal wires to the input transformer.
but I have no problem putting a center tap in so I'll do that anyway!