get a battery and just use the grid as a backup
Yeah, with sufficient production + off-grid usage that would work. With grid-tied, be careful. Most inverters on the market can't do different power per phase. Even if they can, do they have working control system? Secondly, most inverters have slow response time in seconds. As a result they work just fine in sane countries, but not with bullshit metering, you would still have simultaneous import/export and battery inverter could actually make it
worse. I mean, turn on the coffee maker, and you consume from grid for a few seconds. When it turns off, you
export to grid for a few seconds while the inverter ramps down. With temporal netting in billing, this is not a problem as long as the control loop lag/oscillation is symmetric. Without temporal netting, you pay the bill from simultaneous import and export all the time, even from triggered from simple control loop noise!
Australia has a big problem in producing to much power in the middle of the day and not having enough power for the evening peek
the more you can help fix the problem the cheaper power will be for you.
You need a political solution to your political problem. No real incentives are needed, but removal of anti-incentives is a good start.
No netting over phases, and temporal netting period in milliseconds is anti-incentive which blurs real free market mechanisms, because it acts like a pigovian tax on products like grid-tie PV or battery inverters, by causing an extra bill for no real reason whatsoever from "simultaneous" import and export. It is like getting billed in a supermarket for taking a product from the shelf and putting it back ten seconds later.
The other extreme, temporal netting over days, months or even a year is an incentive which blurs real free market mechanisms. Because such long-term energy storage does not exist, billing which resembles an infinite (or huge) "virtual battery" means the money is just extracted from taxpayers, a subsidy which acts as a "thank you" for
not investing in storage.
Golden middle road of obvious netting over phases, and netting over temporal period of say from 5 minutes to 1 hour is a sane way to operate and allows people to e.g. use batteries to even out their excess PV production with any grid-tie inverter system, without being ass-raped in billing. But this needs to be in legislation because if the power companies can choose, of course they choose to have an arbitrary source of extra billing.