My question was
Looking for ideas how to achieve the STOP in between Fw -R
& discharge the starter capacitor 15uf in between switching.
Thanks , your answer does not address the fact that is AC the capacitor placement determines the rotation
or how to discharge the capacitor before changing direction of rotation.
You have not given enough information in your question for an adequate answer to be provided. I cannot tell from what you have said whether the switch is defective, the relay is defective, or both.
You apparently don't even know yourself:
The Forward switch is working fine, can't remember if reverse is working.
Please don't post questions until you have at least got the basic facts in order. Otherwise it just wastes everyone's time.
The short answer: reverse engineer the existing switch and wiring, then repair or replace with equivalents as needed.
The long answer: do a detailed photo-by-photo disassembly, showing every detail of the construction, and post the photos here. Show where and why you think a part is defective. Explain where you have a problem getting a suitable replacement or substitute part. Remember the easiest way to repair something is to keep the wiring exactly the same as the original design. Redesigning a circuit to repair something needs much more expertise.
The original Switch is complicated using a relay with multi contacts, no longer available
A replacement for a relay is always available. It may have physically different shape, and maybe it is not the exact part originally installed, but relays are universal. You just need to find one of a similar size and rating and figure out how to fit it in the place occupied by the original.
Additional information: single phase induction motors are reversed by swapping a single pair of wires. This requires either a DPDT switch, or a relay that performs the same function. The motor has to be stopped before trying to switch direction. If the motor is still turning when you try to change the direction, the chances are that it will keep going the same way.