Well I pretty much had to go with the pin grafting idea. I tried bending the petals back just a little bit more in order to get a reliable connection but another one broke off, leaving only one intact. No good.
I did contact Anritsu but just as I feared, they will not sell a replacement connector piece. They want the unit sent in for evaluation and they to send a repair/cal quote. Forget it. Pretty much guaranteed that would be over $1000!
I did as I had planned except I scrapped the idea of drilling a hole down the middle of the pin, that didn't work. Whatever material the pin is made of, is darn near impossible to drill. It also put a nice gouge in my nice set of flush cutters when I was trimming the pin to length.

So anyways, only the solder is holding the two pieces together, but I was able to get the length to within 0.1mm and the centering is not absolutely perfect but close enough for the connectors to mate without any trouble. Most importantly, I get a reliable electrical connection now.
I have no way to tell how much of an impedance bump this has created (obviously it's not as good as the original intact connector would have been). I could only compare with another instrument going to 3.3GHz and the results appear the same. Beyond 3.3GHz up to the max of 20GHz... no idea. While any imperfections in the connector can theoretically be calibrated out, wouldn't this potentially degrade the available dynamic range of the instrument?
Anyways, I'm not willing to dump $1000+ to getting this properly repaired, so it will have to do.