after talking to myself long enough, think I may have solved it... will get back after I figure it out

unit is working, both plates turn on and off, and senses temp warm up and cut out when temp is reached.
maybe I fixed it with just the zener change. I also changed the relay, but did not make a diff at that time.
I had one of the lower temp sensor out a while back, maybe did not put it back in right. Anyway, took that apart, put back together and was able to get the temp sensor light working engaging the plates..

thks for those that helped