I don't have a heat gun (yet) so I know that it would of been easier so I'm stuck with the basic tools. Is there a specific temperature for my soldering iron, I have a hakko FX 888D and I have the org chisel tip on it. Any help with this would be VERY WELCOMED!!!
With what you have there is no easy way to remove this. Hot air (please, use a proper hot air station, not hardware store "gun" for stripping paint!) would work but you would likely destroy the connector in the process (the plastic melts). Possibly not a concern seeing the state of the connector already. You could also try to snip the mechanical support pins on the sides off using a pair of cutters and then desolder the rest.
Solder suckers and braid are of no use here, you need to heat all the pins at once, including the mechanical pins that are holding the connector down and are soldered into a ground plane (so sucking away the heat).
The best way to do this is a hotplate/preheater. Preheat the board from the bottom and let the solder melt. Then you should be able to pull the connector out easily. And even better way is to preheat the board just below the solder melting using the hotplate and then quickly hit the connector from the top by hot air, it should pop right off.
I have recently got a tiny MHP30 preheater for doing just this type of work - localized rework without having to heat the entire board.
Without a preheater there is a chance that you could get it off by heating the board from the bottom using hot air only but it is very likely that you will scorch the board and the connector will be still stuck due to the ground plane wicking/blocking the heat away.
Oh and keep in mind that you may have a drop of glue under the connector too - that is sometimes done to secure the connectors to the boards for wave soldering and to prevent them being ripped off the board by people plugging and removing the cables.