I suggest solder balls, rather than paste for most of things. As of stencils, if on cheap side, use direct heat ones. Be aware that some of them are utter garbage, some more or less OK for the same price. Otherwise get proper chip holders and more expensive stencils. For RAM, unless doing one off job, you probably should get holders/stencils for doing 4 or 8 chips at once. For reball, you could use cheap Kingbo RMA-218 garbage flux applied in thin layer. Then more of it and repeated heating after initial melting of the balls. Then clean that with IPA or alcohol based cleaner. For reflow on the board, I'd use some better genuine flux not from China. Or at least get Chinese branded stuff not cheaper than $10 for 100g, not fake Amtech. White creamy types seems to be more or less OKish.