Very interesting read on Tantalums in
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantalum_capacitor, basically high capacitance per unit volume so physically smaller than aluminium caps. Also there is a section about reverse voltage that reads:
"Tantalum electrolytic are polarized and generally require anode electrode voltage to be positive relative to the cathode voltage.
With a reverse voltage applied, a reverse leakage current flows in very small areas of microcracks or other defects across the dielectric layer to the anode of the electrolytic capacitor. Although the current may only be a few microamps, it represents a very high localized current density which can cause a tiny hot-spot. This can cause some conversion of amorphous tantalum pentoxide to the more conductive crystalline form. When a high current is available, this effect can avalanche and the capacitor may become a total short.
Nevertheless, tantalum electrolytic capacitors can withstand for short instants a reverse voltage for a limited number of cycles. The most common guidelines for tantalum reverse voltage are:
10% of rated voltage to a maximum of 1 V at 25 °C,
3% of rated voltage to a maximum of 0.5 V at 85 °C,
1% of rated voltage to a maximum of 0.1 V at 125 °C.
These guidelines apply for short excursion and should never be used to determine the maximum reverse voltage under which a capacitor can be used permanently"
So what the hell is wrong with my capacitor still working after all this abuse! Go figure!