> the laptop has started on battery
Then you could also check whether there is voltage at the battery terminals when it's not plugged into the laptop. If so, then obviously the laptop can deal with voltage on those pins without any further negotiation or stuff. (I'd be surprised if it couldn't, though).
> How many Amps are needed? the original PS give 65W (3.2A/19.5V) but if I don't need to charge the battery, I can reduce current needs.
Yeah, you certainly don't need that much, and also depends on peripherals, of course--if you don't use the USB ports to power stuff that draws a lot of power, then you don't need to supply that power to the laptop either.
Your battery should be measuring power draw when discharging, and that information is usually exposed through ACPI or something, so the easiest approach would be to just connect all the peripherals you want to use, put full load on the CPU and possibly GPU, max out screen brightness, and then just look at what the battery is measuring, that should give you a good idea of how much power your PSU needs to be able to provide.