I have the SMTC-1169 and SMTC-1183.
The 1169 gets used more often due to it being more narrow, helpful as the proximity of decoupling caps to the pins of the chip are usually quite close, the 2mm wide hoof squeezes better into the limited space. The overall area of the exposed surface will hold enough solder for any QFP package's side you'll see out there, so there's no point in going larger (e.g. 3mm wide) IMO. In fact, the problem with the 1169 is actually it is capable of holding too much solder, so if you load too much solder to the tinned surface, you will get bridging at the last few pins after dragging. The 1169 is tinned only on the hoof face.
The 1183 does not have the bridging problem mentioned above, as the dent will help "scoop" away excess solder at the end of the drag. However it is wider and is more difficult to clean away solder within the dent.
Overall, the 1169 is more narrow, agile and is my go-to, but it requires more skill and practice to use. The 1183 is also good as you will rarely bridge pins, but wider and does not always work with the space you have.
I use 700 series temperature for all my tips. It works wonderfully on leaded and quite well for lead-free.
Thermaltronics tips are a bit hit or miss. They work fine with my old second hand MX-500 (no LCD screen), but the MX-5200 refuses to work with them, throwing an error if you plug it in. The thermaltronics hot tweezers are absolute junk, the tips don't meet by a wide margin when you close the tweezers, and I literally had to bent the tips to have it hold anything at all. So overall I haven't been too impressed with Thermaltronics.
I haven't use the thermaltronics tips enough to comment on tip plating quality, but the Metcal plating is very durable, wets well after a couple years of moderate use.
Btw, the Hakko Fx-1003 tweezers works perfectly fine on both Metcal stations I own, so the Hakko Fx-1001 and fx-1002 will probably work fine as well (YMMV). Hakko's tip plating is bulletproof in my experience.