You might have unrealistic explanations for your local ham radio club just because there may not be that many technically oriented hams in your area. I can assure you that if you go to a Palo Alto Radio Association meeting (that's Palo Alto, California) you will be treated to some technical discussions. But that's about the highest density of EE nerds in the USA.
Personally, I am an EE and got into radio in large part because it was a big glaring hole in my EE knowledge (wasn't a big part of my undergrad curriculum) and it was not part of my career at all. So I've been all-in on building radios, antennas, digital mode decoders, etc. I've also put a fair amount of effort into setting up a remote station, in large part so I can occasionally experiment while at work. I do interact with a "community", but it's mostly virtual, and that's fine.
I'll say this, though: I suspect that many a radio club fan would not find *me* very interesting because at the end of the day, I just don't operate very much. The building and testing interests me a lot more than racking up contacts. I get on the radio occasionally and will log a few, but mostly, it's the getting there I enjoy!