Wow there's a lot of gibberish in this thread.
And thank you for taking the time to add even more gibber jabber.
Gee. I can't imagine how your interactions with manufacturers didn't go the way you wanted them to.

1) You cannot reach the recommended torque for an SMA with your fingers. Use a wrench. If you insist on being fast and imprecise, spend $5 on a hasco SMA finger wrench.
https://www.hasco-inc.com/tools/sma-3-5mm-2-92mm-2-4mm-1-85mm-connector-finger-thumb-wrench-blue/
That will at least increase the diameter to a size where you can apply the required torque.
I have some open end wrenches I could use if the goal was to over torque them. I assume you are suggesting that is not possible with the tool you are recommending.
You do know what happens when you assume right?
That tool means that you will at least apply enough torque to mate the reference planes and compress any gasket. The basic, bare minimum requirement.
It will remind you that these are just SMA connectors as it starts to slip, but they's nothing to stop you from just acting like a fool and tightening your grip.
If you have to make a quick check on 100 units, it's just the ticket. An open end wrench will be slower and more prone to over torque.
4) Connector gauges are generally comparators against a reference standard. Check your reference. Is it good? This is easy for SMA but harder for N. Either way, I didn't notice any reference to zeroing the gauges.
I can easily remedy that. See attached image. Feel better now?
Now, how good is that standard?
Quit being lazy and tell us. What number are you zeroing to?
I said "check you reference" not " blindly trust it."
5) If your torque wrench appreciably changes its delived torque based on where your fingers are on the handle, it is a POS and belongs in the trash. Typical RF connector torque wrenches do not have this property.
I really don't know what "appreciable" changes are or what a "typical" wrench would be. No matter, finger placement has been covered but rather then posting gibberish, feel free to prove me otherwise. Plot the six or so data points I previously asked for.
https://www.eevblog.com/forum/testgear/dont-buy-sma-cable-assemblies-from-centricrf/msg5752031/#msg5752031
If you can't define an appreciable change in torque perhaps you should leave the discussion alone. Go look at the torque spec. It's a range. All torque specs produced by serious people are.
Commonly 8-10 in lbs
https://www.centricrf.com/torque-specifications/Thus a change of 0.2 in lbs would be insignificant whereas a change of 2 in lbs would.
This is obvious, common sense stuff.
If you insist on not using common sense you could go buy yourself a copy of a torque wrench standard like ISO 6789.
As for "typical" you do at least seem to speak English. You should know what "typical" means. Go do some searching as if you were going to buy an SMA torque wrench. What are the most common types? That's typical. Typical is a "clicker" style.
This is not hard stuff. Maybe twisting a male connector onto a female connector is just not for you. Maybe you should just use SMB connectors.