HI Thomas,
thanks for your input and invaluable research regarding the protocol.
Yes, the input stage took me the longest to reverse engineer, the rest was just datasheet implementations with a few component value variations.
The probe wires are not available from R&S, not even for the new probes. My requests remained unanswered. Their customer service is abysmal, just downloading a PDF requires a registration process that prevents mortals with non-big-company domains from registering. They prefer selling new equipment, along with the wires. If a wire breaks, go and buy a new scope. Wonderful. But I digress.
HP is much more open regarding this, you can purchase these probe leads on ebay real cheap, they look identical to the ones from R&S, so they probably come from the same sweat shop in Bangladesh or the Hunan or Guangdong provinces. I was unable to find a manufacturer in China, so getting HP is the best option.
But - searching for probe wires same as when searching for a mate - it's the inner values that count, and here R&S and HP are different! The chubby part of the probe wire contains a voltage divider including a cap, which determines the input impedance, and here HP uses slightly different values. I think 1:10 vs. 1:9 or something like that. The cap in the probe wire and the corresponding cap in the probe must correlate with the R dividers because using only Rs would result in a divider that's good for DC, but not high frequencies. HP is very open regarding these probe wires, they even include component values to use when including the dividers on the target PCB using debug headers. Way to go HP!
Luckily the whole thought train and calculations were described very well in some application note I found at R&S, so I was able to calculate the correct component values when using HP probe wires instead of R&S wires.
Bottomline: please be patient, when it's all working I'll publish it. Maybe it makes sense to design a tiny flex pcb for just the probe lead divider that you can embed into a small case while 3D printing it (you know, print, pause, put pcb in half-printed case smooth side up, put some goo on smooth flex and continue printing.)