I think you need to post the rest of the circuit,
Normally it's not the SCR which connects the flash to 400V, it's permanently connected. The SCR normally discharges a small capacitor into a high voltage pulse transformer which produces a short high voltage pulse (about 20kV) which is coupled to the tube's trigger terminal. Before the tube is triggered, it holds back the 400V, when the gas inside the tube is ionised by the 25kV trigger pulse it forms a conductive plasma which allows the 400V to flow causing it to flash.
It sounds like the resistor in series with the trigger capacitor has too lower value so the SCR never turns off. If you increase its value so that the DC current is below the holding current of the SCR, it should solve the problem. Interestingly, as the amount of energy stored in the trigger capacitor is so small, you could probably remove the SCR and use the TRIAC in the opto-isolator to directly trigger it, which will make it faster.