How much is too much cost? The TLP222 at digikey is 1$ each for 1. Most likely cheaper elsewhere. There are more expensive SS-Relays which will do high voltage AC & DC, but I bet internally, they have a reed relay + mosfets.
Reed relays exist which are designed to switch 120bpm 24/7, 365 days a rear, but they cost $$$.
If the 60v of the TLP222 isn't large enough, let me know, there may be a bridge solution, but now we are going way up in parts and price.\
Too bad vactrols are obsolete. They do cost more than the TLP222, but you might be able to get one with 100v AC/DC switch, but, they behave like a large 1-10meg resistor when off, a 1-10 ohm resistor when on.
If you do go with the TLP222, I would recommend 2 zener diodes, back-back, on the output to protect the 60v limit of the optocoupler's output. In fact, using this trick with a dual, or 2 of the TLP222 outputs in series, you would now have a 120v switch. You can also take things in the other direction, parallel output to get higher currents.