Let me respond to the quotes from the girls that she posted (and moho mentioned above.) I'll include timestamps this time.
21:37 "Need to let the boys answer".
I got this too in middle school/high school. I ALWAYS tried to answer and was told MULTIPLE time by my teachers in private that I need to let other people answer sometimes. How do we know she wasn't in a class full of boys and the teacher was just generalizing?
22:20 "Hiding your intelligence if you want a boyfriend."
While this sucks, in high school, boys are immature. The ones that can't handle you being smarter than them won't like you. While this sucks, young boys are immature, and what her guidance counselor told her was probably true. This is NOT true for all boys though. I dated girls smarter than me.
23:16 "Bullied for not liking girly things."
No shit. Boys would also be bullied for not liking "manly" things. While this IS a problem it IS NOT only a problem for young women. So if you're trying to present this dichotomy for how boys and girls are being treated, this quote is NOT helping your point.
23:33 "Either ignored by the boys or overwhelmed while playing a game."
Again, no shit. If you're not good at it, people are going to ignore you or make fun of you. Again, not JUST a problem for girls. Did the girl want to be babied and have the boys play easy with her until she got better? THAT'S sexist, and definitely not how online games work.
23:43 "Was told by boys in engineering that I'm not attractive."
What if that girl WASN'T attractive? I'm sorry, it's mean, but some people are NOT attractive. And besides, this is NOT true. If a girl is attractive, AND she's in STEM... it makes her even MORE attractive to someone like me, also in STEM. I know it's mean, but everyone has standards.
24:12 "Was made fun of for liking nerdy things."
Oh god. Nerds getting made fun of... the horror... Again, this happens to GUYS just as much. Do you know how much I was made fun of for being a nerd who played sports? I got it from both ends... Nerds get made fun of. If you can't deal with it, then you have a problem. In life you have to learn to deal with people who don't like you and who don't like what you do.
24:14 "I've been talked down to for being a girl."
Was she perceiving this, or was it actually true? We've already established that girls and boys perceive things differently. Was the person talking to her trying to be malicious or was it a boy who just didn't realize? If it's the ladder, then this quote means nothing.
24:34 "Been told to try other things besides STEM."
Like WHAT? Sports? This means NOTHING without context.
24:48 "Told not to go into STEM even by parents"
Maybe their parents knew it was extremely hard and saw their daughter was better at something else? Again, context. There's SO many different ways this could be taken. Again, this means nothing.
24:55 "Made fun of in online games"
You're made fun of in online games? The HORROR! EVERYONE is made fun of in online games. Boys are called girls, girls are called boys. It happens. Online games are a hostile place. Deal with it or don't play.
25:15 "More gaming stuff."
Gaming, again. Same as above. Also GAMING /= STEM.
25:34 "Made fun of specifically for being a girl."
What specifically? This statement is extremely general and again, means nothing without context.
Yes, many of these are "what if " scenarios, but if you're going to post quotes, at least make them non ambiguous in their meaning.
Yes, I ignored a few that actually were sexist. But the vast majority were not, or were ambiguous.
What these quotes tell me is the boys are better at taking/ignoring criticism. This is an emotional problem, not a social one. And you know what, STEM fields are FULL of criticism (Peer reviewed papers anyone?). If you can't take it, you shouldn't be in STEM fields.
If you baby women into these fields, what you end up with are women who feel entitled and can "do no wrong." They can't take criticism, they can't handle being told that they're wrong. This is not what science is about. If you can't handle someone telling you that "You're stupid for not seeing this." then you're going to have a hard time in STEM. How do I know this? I deal with multiple of these women every day in my lab, which is full of women, besides me.