I suspect it is simple: the big auto OEMs (& so on) have simply bid much more for the parts, and in a volatile market, Digi-Key and other distributors do not want to buy in stock at prices that might vary week by week. And TI and other suppliers are just not willing to provide them with the guarantees of fixed pricing or do the sales on a consignment business, too much risk. I would imagine all in that Digi-Key takes around 30-40% of the purchase price to cover distribution, shipping, insurance, returns (this tends towards a low figure, maybe 10%, for high volume orders) and this also factors into the calculation.
I would love to see a distribution of industry size vs order volume, I am just guessing that SMEs are a significant part of the industry.