First of all, I sincerely wish the OP the best of luck under what seem to be extremely difficult circumstances. Though her approach may not have been the best choice, desperation can possibly drive any one of us to extreme measures, or unwise choices. When a person with disabilities reaches out to a community, it's really embarrassing to see what sort of reception they can expect here. I hope that she can find a much better living situation, without losing her possessions, and feel safe and secure again, as soon as possible. Really really bad situations can turn any one of us completely inside out in an instant. To laugh at, and even ridicule, people who are suffering, and at their weakest, is of course one of the most common forms of bullying.
Also, I hope she (OP), is able to forgive the folks who think it's acceptable to cruelly taunt their fellow brothers and sisters. The cruelty only reveals the insecurities of the aggressors, and folks should probably pity them most of all, that they instinctively treat others badly, without bothering to consider the consequences, like the pain they may cause to people they don't even know, not to mention, themselves.
Really -- to laugh at, and ridicule someone who is clearly struggling with terribly serious issues -- is that what these forums have come to? Sure, eventually a potential solution was offered, but not before attempting to completely demean, without even bothering to find out the details of the situation.
Though none of this is surprising, it's disappointing that the "adults" in the room seem to be oblivious that these forums are far too often completely unwelcoming to very young members, and women -- not to mention a terrible example of how professionals should treat each other. Excessive swearing, regular childish attacks on each other, ongoing shallow sexist comments that put off women from participating -- what a shame. Just think of the incredible resource these forums could be to very young kids. But the way things are now, I'll certainly be steering my nieces and nephews to other resources that are much more professional and suitable for budding engineers.
As for myself, I'll continue to lurk, and possibly even participate once in a while, but there's little joy in coming here anymore (not that anyone here likely cares). I really hope the current situation can change for the better -- I think there's already sufficient cruelty in the world without trying to add more.
Best of luck to us all, and especially the OP!