Probably it is obvious if someone points at it, but you have to use Automotive catalog parts for the automotive market. That means you cannot use every part you stumble upon. Freescale, Infineon and Renesas is indeed a good starting point, at infineon I would look for their new Cortex M4, maybe that is not completly F.ked up like their previous ones, with the others I dont have experience.
Also, Ti has the Hercules series, I would guess that it is easier to get support for that. But if you dont have experience with the automotives, get a consultant from the company ASAP. Even your code cannot be any way you want it, and there are way too many standards to now all of them.
mod: And I see, only like 4 times did they say that already.