Well, like all good projects, it needs splitting into several managable chunks that you can start separately before you "pull it all together" !!
1) High current circuitry, protection, and safety
This concerns switching, measuring, distributing the vehicle battery voltage. What power switches are you going to use (HINT: google "Infineon PROFET".....), what current can you source, how are you going to measure that current. What about fusing, over voltage protection (google "automotive load dump" What is the systems thermal limitation, with all circuits loaded, is it realistic to load all circuits at once (hint, check alternator output!), how are you going to heat sink the device, what are the ambeint temps the system will operate in. Will you "derate" in higher ambients. How will you carry the high current internally? thick copper pcb, busbars, descrete wiring etc And finally, the hardest one, what IO connectors are you going to use? (<<< that is a LOT harder than you might think in low volume, unless you want to spend $$$ on each connector
2) Enclosure, housing, mounting, environmental protection etc: What will the device be housed in, will it be waterproof, what about vibration, condensation, etc?
3) Control and communication: Starting with an simple ardiuno is actually a good idea. prove the concept first, work out your control strategies. Consider the safety case, but don't get stuck on it for now (assuming you aren't actually going to sell these things yet!). Use Google to brush up on your CAN knowledge, so you understand how a typical automotive CAN bus is operated. How many "hardware" inputs will you need, what about "outputs" etc. Get a spec sheet together defining your project, so you can keep track of those decisions and issues around them (like delegating uC pins to functions, will a 48pin micro be enough etc?)
4) High level architecture: How many power outputs do i need? What current do i need to be able to measure, or act on, both peak and continuous. (Hint, best option is to split your power distribution into two systems, imo, a master, with say 6 to 8 high current outputs, that then feeds power "buses" to slaves that then actually controls the end consumers, as this architecture minimises vehicle wiring)
Answer some of these^^ questions and get back to us! (Good project btw, but actually pretty complex and covers a lot of knowledge from more than just basic electronics etc ;-)