Thanks for the help Hero999!
On those below, it seems that the short circuit current they list in the data sheets found in links you sent below has more to do with the current "eaten" by the control circuit when the device is fully on, and not the current carrying capability- is that correct? They show a forward current of 1A, for instance, but short circuit current in the microamps...
In any case, the triac seems like a natural fit, but they have even less information regarding parasitic capacitance presented to the isolated circuit than do the SSR. For the SSR, I took a guess that something labeled for "RF" would be a bit more careful with stray capacitance, but I don't see a "RF" sort parameter on the triacs.
It seems that, if one didn't need to have the optical isolation, one could maybe "roll their own", right? I was thinking a couple of series mosfets (with low Ciss Coss specs) similar to a bi-directional switch for battery charging circuits, figure out how to drive the gates, and "Bob's your Auntie"... right?