I switched the mosfets around so that Q3 and Q1 are the identical and Q4 and Q2 are identical, to prevent further damage I followed dl6lr advice and hooked the board to 110V power source and it worked fine. Gave it 5 minutes and it kept working fine.
Switched the jumpers to 230V configuration, and started the system, the lamp in series started to glow after I heard something like a hiss or small sparks somewhere on the board, immediately disconnected the power and nothing seemed to blow. Tried again but still can't figure out where that sparky sound is coming from. Switched the jumpers back to 110v and thought of measuring some voltages, it worked for like 10 seconds and the the relay started clicking on and off rapidly. Now Q1 is blown.
This is somehow strange. The FETs to be identical should be Q3/Q2 and Q1/Q4, as those build a PP drive to the transformer each. I would just disable the second PSU completely to isolate the problem (or use it first to get some measurements on the working circuit).
So the unit worked for 5 minutes in 110V configuration with 110V supplied? With or withoud load?
Some thoughts, maybe wrong: TH1 is the inrush current limiter. The relay is driven from electronics supplied by the AUX PSU so if the voltage is low because the bulb starts to glow, the relay may switch off. Just bridge the relay for tests. When the MAIN PSU gets its DC input voltage, limited by TH1, C59,C60,C69,C70 will be charged, either in parallel (110V) or series (230V). With Q6 and R14 the two DIACs will be pre-charged, at about 60V the DIAC will drive the Gate of Q3 positive against the source, so Q3 will switch on and current from will flow thru the transformer. The source will "jump" to high voltage but the gate floats with it. The current induced into the second winding and as long as voltage on pin 7 of T1 rises, current flows thru C54 and keeps the gate high. When the core saturates, current thru Q3 increases but current/voltage at pin 7 will decrease, so gate will be pulled low thru R63/R66. Current thru Q3 stops and decreases, inducing voltage in opposite direction which will turn on Q2 thru C56.
Ratings of the FETs are 10A, the bulb should draw a current that is lower. So even one FET stuck should not blow it up. 200W on 230V will be roughly 1A with higher inrush. I would try a lower value like 60W to start with, but a IRF740 should not bother the current from the lamp. So there must be another error, like failing snubber or excessive startup drive.
Check R14, R15, R16, Q6, D14 and C54. With D15 and D16 removed, the PSU should not start up (but beware, any kind of spike to one of the gates will start it). Check D23 as a failing zener may exceed the Ugs (20V) of Q3. It should have 0.7V forward and 15V in reverse. In circuit you will not get the right values as R63-R66 are parallel to it.