I was able to map the connector using an Ohmmeter and scope to probe the pins. The OP said there were only 3 open pins, so I'm still unsure what is connected to pin 16, but all others are accounted for.
That being said, I've drawn a preliminary schematic of an interface board that will go between the IDC20 cable and the LCD VGA input. I also added a constant current source to provide 100-250mA to a pair of LED backlights using the front panel brightness control. I stress that this is preliminary and needs to be breadboarded and verified. Next step is to spin a prototype PCB, order the LCD display and test it. I will post a link to the PCB fab if/when I verify operation if anyone else is pursuing a similar solution.