You can take this for what it is worth, but when someone joins the forum and almost immediately asks for a donation of T&M equipment, especially 2 different postings, a lot of the forum members are probably going to question the validity of the plea. I have seen, in the time I have been a member, there have been multiple cases of extreme generosity by members, including paying shipping to different countries. Those who made a compelling enough case at the right time, read by the right member, were not only lucky but very grateful.
Granted, some were a little hard on you, but see above paragraph. To make a general statement as to the lack of friendliness when a couple of posters were a little tough, it's not a way to make friends and influence people. Especially when, in 1 post, the title says required. Really? A donation of an oscilloscope is required? I understand that this is an international forum and customs are different in different countries, but good manners are good manners.