I've enjoyed and learnt a lot from this thread, so far, thanks everyone, for sharing your views. It has opened my eyes, to all the differing viewpoints and opinions, (a subset of) everyone on the forums perceptions.
A bit like a recent plane crash, where various videos, at different times and positions, get shown. Perhaps some doorbell footage, of an initial huge explosion, another (possibly a mobile/cell phone), with lots of firetrucks and emergency workers, attending to a major incident, and potentially others, as well.
It saddens me, that what happens, on this forum, sometimes, causes upset, and people end up taking a break, or even not returning.
All these (my opinion) differing opinions, sheds further light on how hard moderating a forum is, in practice.
I guess, you can't keep everyone happy, all of the time.